why so many millennials aren’t owning their health


So many of us millennials battle with our health, and you wanna know why?

Coz we don’t give a fuck about it.


We also tend to not own our health because we don’t want the responsibility. If we don’t feel good, that’s a sign we didn’t do something good, and we don’t like facing those types of things. We don’t want the expense and time that it takes to work to find a true solution, we’d just rather go see a doctor n take some antibiotics / pill / panadol and continue on our merry way.

 

We tend not to own our health because we don’t even know we have to? We always hear “you’re young, you’ll be fine / you’ll bounce back / you cant complain” yet I know lots of millennial’s suffering and suffocating in not being able to express that and get the help they need.

 

We tend not to own our health because we think it’s not super cool? And we want to be accepted and cool?

 

We tend not to own our health because we’re masters of making excuses, and we like immediacy and easy. That’s our middle names. And I’m the first to admit I prescribe to wanting everything now, meow.


We’ve grown up with everything being of access in an immediate foreseeable future. And so we think our health and wellbeing will be no different. But it ain’t. Like all the good things in life, that we want – success, happiness, love, freedom, security, Drake spooning us to sleep, it takes effort and creating habits that help get us there.

 

And if there’s a trademark of us millennial’s, it’s expecting to get what we want without exerting ourselves for it (but that’s what makes life good, ja feel, that pay off’s like oxygen).


We’re marketed quick fixes, and we always want that.

Whether it’s a “10 day detox”, “8 week shred program”, fat burning powder, 1 giant multivitamin pill, the morning after pill, panadol, antibiotics, lap band surgery, etc etc.

 

Making effort requires us to change, to break from our cycle, our comfort zones, our limiting belief’s that have curated our story. Our identity is our habits, our behaviour. I’ll say that again. Our identity, is our habits, our behaviours. So changing our habits and behaviours, literally challenges and changes our identity, and so we’re like oh krrrppppp and freak out, and tend to jump back into default mode, and thus we don’t actually change, and reap the benefits we know we’re worthy of, want, and can get, but don’t.

 

Stacking on top of this, is also the societal understanding that, changing habits and behaviours impacts our identity, and thus makes us open to judgement, criticism, belittling, resistance, because we’re revealing a new part of ourselves, and that’s vulnerability (BB aka Brene Brown).

Another reason we tend to default to the comfort zone, because the discomfort we feel when we’re changing and growing and evolving and trying new things is like AAAHHHH, and I have a baby secret for ya NO ONE REALLY GIVES A FUCK. SO DO YOU. The people that support you, which may surprise you, are the real peeps ya want in your life, the other fuckers who throw shade or judge you, meh.


So, why else aren’t millennials owning their health?

 

Because we make up excuses and again, these compact into limiting beliefs, which turn into behaviours and habits, which define us and our decisions. Some goodies include “I don’t have time” “I’m busy” “I’m tired” “it’s expensive” “it’s too confusing” “I don’t know where to start” “I don’t care” etc. etc.

 

And we both know these are just fallacies because we don’t have to fail if we don’t try right? Coz hello, we live in the dopest era, like hello iphones, hello internet, hello podcasts, hello audible, hello 23ndme, hello Google, hello free content on social media, hello globalisation, hello Afterpay, hello meal delivery companies, hello blogs and recipes etc etc. We make time for what we value and think is important. and improving our physical health ain't no different.

 

Its just bout carving out feeling bomb as a priority, which is random to know that we don’t give a fuck and it’s not high on our priority list. Which to me, being me, makes no sense, coz if you feel like shit, how can you show up and rock life. YA CANT. Coz you feel shit. So everything will be more effort and less awesome. Like, on all levels. Energy won’t be as good, ya skin won’t be as good, ya mood won’t be as good, confidence, sleep, sex, recovery, ideas, work, study, etc etc.

 

It’s like we think we’re just granted awesome health, which sadly, isn’t the entire case because of the environment and world we live in. All the processed foods, environmental toxins, blue light, dopamine dripping video content and social media, long work hours, night shift, over consumption, heavy metals, globalisation of food, microbiome disruptors, stress, and then the fucking slap in the face life gives us by just existing, takes it toll and we gotta protect our number one asset; our energy.

Because it’s all we got. Our energy and our health is the pillar to living fulfilled and optimising this time we got. Or because of how we’ve grown up, we just get used to feeling sluggish, unmotivated, fatigued, brain fogged, meh, and think this is just “normal” because everyone tells us it is.  So we settle. And think this is as good as it gets. Nuh-uh not on my watch bitches.


I posted on IG the other day, how on my phones a sticky note that said "my #1 goal; to wake people up”. And this is my core purpose and what this and all my blog’s underlying goal is; TO WAKE UP. It may be “normal” in our societal standards, but its not normal on a grand scheme to feel that way. You don’t have to settle for feeling average, you can level your life up on all levels, and nutrition is just one of these levels.


And like, I’ve been there. I’ve settled and was not at all #woke. I never really had any true overarching idea of my purpose, what I wanted to do, who I wanted to be, nutrition was the 6th degree I started (LOL), I went out n drank like erry weekend n a few weekdays haha, I’d just chill hungover eating macca’s, blocks of cadbury, whatever, I didn’t even really care, i was fatigued, bloated, inflamed, fluid retentioned, holding heaps of excess fat, my hair and nails wouldn’t grow, I could sleep for fucking ages, I was like a pendulum and would get disappointed / upset / angry easily, and I honestly don’t even think I thought about bigger picture things. Like my scope of life was so small, and just tunnel visioned on nothing, jus party n bullshit. And I can’t even relate to that baby girl, I understand her, but am like omg how did I live like that, like now I cant even fathom that, because I’ve woken up to how good it feels to feel good, and take care of yourself, and I feel that emanates in my life. And you too can have that feeling. It’s creating the awareness and implementing the strategies and discipline and commit to changing, knowing everything you want, you can have, it just takes work.


So, ask for help. DM people, utilise social media, soak up the good messages and tips, follow people that inspire and motivate you, there’s so much free content out there, or pay to add value so you’re more likely to see it through, get people to hold you accountable, surround yourself with people who encourage you, not be like “omg don’t be lame” and peer pressure you.

 

Rather that treating feeling like shit, and medicating issues, pave the preventative path now, so you don’t have to deal with that shit. Give yourself the best possible chance. Value and prioritise your health, because it’s the foundation of everything. Don’t be afraid of fucking up, breaking our “diet” - (which as a side note, has been created to mean something its not. A diet, is the food we eat. We all have a diet, because we all eat food.)

 

Don’t be afraid to try something new out of fear of judgement, be afraid of taking advantage of your magic and power and the epicness you can have when you just put more effort into bettering yourself.

 

Das all.

One love,  notorious E.L.I aka TMN aka Drake’s future wife if my manifestation goes to plan

The paradox of an independent millennial


The paradox of an independent millennial

So, just a heads up that this blog is a bit random, and I don’t even know if I’m articulating what I’m trying to say in a value adding way. But, it’s happening, soooooo this blog is a bit more in-depth, personal and somewhat just a reflection of my own insight, that was brought to light when travelling alone in Bali, and upon talking about it with my girl @indigo_child14, turns out its not just a party of 1.

I feel there is almost a lingering paradox for the modern millennial.

We’re meant to be independent, yet the human condition is to be connected. A part of a tribe, a community, a family, a group, whatever it may be. As humans, it’s an innate need to be needed and to contribute and add value, and not be alone. We’re a species, a race, and biologically that’s how we survive and flourish – together.

 

So why is independence trade marked as such a strong powerful trait, when success is always attributed to a combined effort, to a community, a network? Why is the power of 1, better than the power of 3? (YOU KNOW I HAD TO THROW A CHARMED REFERENCE IN) because even Charmed knew the power of 3 was the only thing that could defeat evil, twas a combined effort.(ps Alyssa Milano will always be #1)

 

I feel our society celebrates the individual, we all love the story of “the power of one”, they’re celebrated, idolised, and that trickles back into society feeding our ideals around independence. That we have to do everything on our own. That that’s strength. 

There’s good and bad in being dependent and independent. On one end of the spectrum, there’s individuals who are heavily co-dependent, and lose their sense of self, or have no sense of self because they’re constantly requiring input and feedback from people to navigate who they are, their dreams etc etc.

Yet, the other end of the spectrum are fierce fully fledged independent individuals who are content and whole with themselves, and don’t rely on others for anything. But that’s a lonely place to be.

So i feel finding our healthy middle ground on this scale is ideal - as there is power and resiliency in independence, just like there is power and resiliency in dependence. 

This conscious realisation hit me because upon being truly alone, removed from my comfortable environment, my safe bubble, it hits you. This like almost “soul-ache” for connection. You’re out there, wilin' like “what’s so good about being so god damn independent?” “why can’t I depend on someone?” "why the fuck did i think going to bali alone was a good idea?" (it wasn't a bad idea, because it definitely fuelled some growth). I find it even hard to grasp the weird complexity of the entire thing, because for me, I’ve adopted this independent persona, made it part of me, but I feel under this layer of myself, is just a girl who wants to be able to depend on others? Even if you get let down. Who cares. That’s part and parcel of playing the human race game. Coz aint no body perfect (cheers Miley).

SO how is this blog and mind rant going to help you?

Two things,

FIRST - I feel being alone, with no connection to people via the internet and sitting with yourself brings forth some interesting realisations and space for self exploration. Because, its just you out there. wilin’. You’re forced to actually look at yourself. To explore yourself. To question yourself. It’s both frightening as fuck, and also liberating. Because the level of discomfort is one you get comfortable with, which is a recipe for growth in life, as @lisamessenger so gorgeously preaches, and as the lovely @inthera also told me.

discomfort = growth.

So, I feel I’d like to offer an experiment for all you hunni millennials out there. Give yourself a time frame. Whether it’s an hour, or half a day or a few days, where you’re purely alone. Have a book, a podcast, music, a journal, whatever, but nothing that truly knocks you out of your presence. And just sit or walk or move. See what pops up. Its almost like meditation, but we’re inviting the feels and thoughts to come through. Because what comes forth is usually what’s meant to be explored and addressed, away from our safe bubbles and notifications and reinforcing ideals. The solo exploration is an advantageous one.

SECONDLY,

and the moral of my story; IT’S OKAY TO NEED PEOPLE. I see my friends and people around me subconsciously knowing they need help or someone, yet, it's like we're blinded to it. It's okay to ask for support with anything, like for me, most of my friends its emotional support as well as nutritional support so they're not burning out can keep being amazing and doing amazing things. yet theres the resiliency to be like "yo, i'm not okay in this area, and i need you". It’s not weak. It doesn’t mean you’re any less fierce or independent or strong or amazing or anything. It’s okay to depend on others, to accept help, and don’t feel you have to always do everything on your own. 

That’s all. Baby brain rant. 

LOTS OF LOVE

E aka TMN aka negotiating independent woman?